Let's stop for just a moment and look at some definitions. Attitude is defined as a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a persons behavior. That last part is the part that is important, attitude is what we give out on the outside, our behaviors. Mood is how we feel on the inside, and sometimes that is outside of our control, either because of things that are going on around us, our mental health, or a host of other things.
This month on our videos we are going to be talking about attitude. The first week is about the "golden rule" and doing unto others as we would have them do to us. We often tell children this, but as adults we are not great at it. If we really think about it, most of the time we are good to those who are good to us. Except that that is not really the way that it is supposed to work. If we are good to others, they will be good to us. We also tend to forget about the humans around us. You know those people down at the DMV? They are humans too. And children? They are also humans and deserve to be treated well. What about police officers, social workers, and therapists? We are all human, and even though we might be doing a job, we deserve to be treated well.
So how do you focus on your attitude? First, we know that if you smile for just a few minutes, your bad mood will recede, and you will start to feel happier. Even more, we know that if you greet someone in a positive way, they will likely reciprocate, and then your mood will also improve. I challenge you to smile at the cashier the next time you go in to a store, and really sincerely ask them how they are. You might be surprised at the level of service that you get - just by offering a smile and a sincere question about how they are!
And remember, the person who you are "taking out" your anger when you are frustrated or mad, is likely not even the person who has done something wrong, or who has the control to change things. If you have been on the wrong end of this, I hope that you are ab;e to remember how important it is to have a positive attitude. It's amazing what a little positivity will do for you!